Date Coaching & Relationship Counselling

Are you finding that no matter what you do, the same patterns continue to repeat in your relationships?

For many of the individuals I work with, the challenge is mainly the underlying relational patterns that shape who they are drawn to, how they connect, and what unfolds over time, not necessarily modern dating itself. (Although I tackle issues with modern dating also).

Without addressing these deeper dynamics, dating can feel frustrating, circular and, at times, disheartening.

Professional date coaching and relationship counselling offers a structured and psychologically informed approach to understanding these patterns and creating meaningful, lasting change.

What is Date Coaching?
Date coaching is a focused, individualised process designed to support you in navigating dating and relationships with clarity, confidence and intention.

It is particularly suited to those experiencing:

- difficulty meeting compatible partners
- low confidence or anxiety in dating
- repeated patterns of unsuccessful relationships
- uncertainty around commitment or progression
- challenges in communication or emotional connection

This work moves beyond surface-level advice. It involves understanding the relational blueprint you bring into dating, and working directly with the patterns that may be limiting your ability to form and sustain a fulfilling relationship.

My Approach
My work is grounded in a psychology-led, evidence-based framework that integrates both clinical depth and practical application.

With over a decade of experience working with individuals navigating dating and relationships, alongside over 20 years in mental health, I bring a level of expertise that goes beyond traditional coaching models.

I draw on:

Attachment theory, to understand how early relational experiences shape adult relationships
Psychodynamic approaches, to explore unconscious patterns influencing attraction and behaviour
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, to address unhelpful thinking and behavioural cycles
Parts-based and compassion-focused approaches, to support internal coherence and self-understanding
Occupational psychology principles, applying structured and effective selection strategies to dating

This approach ensures that the focus is not simply on increasing opportunities or improving immediate outcomes, but on creating relationships that are psychologically grounded, stable and genuinely fulfilling.

Who I Work With
I work with individuals who are:

- established professionals seeking a meaningful, long-term relationship
- navigating the end of a significant relationship
- experiencing frustration, burnout or disillusionment with dating
- aware that deeper patterns may be influencing their relationship outcomes
- ready to engage in a more intentional and committed process of change

Why Work With Me
There is no shortage of dating advice available. However, much of it remains at a surface level and does not address the underlying drivers of relational difficulty.

My work is distinct in its focus on:

- long-term relational success rather than short-term outcomes
- emotional depth, self-awareness and psychological insight
interrupting entrenched relational patterns
- developing sustainable confidence and relational clarity

This is not a passive process. It is a collaborative and structured piece of work that requires commitment, and is designed for those who are ready to approach their relational life with seriousness and intention.

Professional Background
I am an HCPC registered Chartered Counselling Psychologist with over 20 years’ experience in mental health, including work within the National Health Service supporting individuals with complex and enduring psychological difficulties.

In addition to my clinical work, I have extensive experience within the dating industry. Nonimated on several occasions as best date coach of the year, often being cited in the media. I co-founded PassionSmiths in 2013, now part of Maclynn International, a leading global introduction agency. This provides a rare combination of real-world matchmaking insight and psychological expertise.

Alongside my professional experience, I bring lived experience of relationships, including marriage, dating, and forming a family later in life. This informs a grounded and realistic understanding of the challenges many clients face.

Start Your Work
If you are ready to approach your dating life differently and engage in a more considered, in-depth process, this work can offer a meaningful shift. I work in blocks of time, we agree on a day and time of the week (usually 6-10 weeks) before we review progress and deciede on whether further work is required. Each session lasts 50 minutes, priced at £180 pr session, paid monthly by bank transfer or stripe.

Ready to get to work? Book a consultation call with me today. Click HERE.