Couples counselling is the process of working through issues in committed romantic relationships. Most people associate couples counselling with married couples, but it is not limited to marriage counselling. Typical approaches are psychodynamic (ie. Relate), or psychoanalytical (i.e. Tavistock), some are very skills based, such as the Gottmans methods or emotion based (i.e. Emotion Focussed Therapy / EFT).
My approach is based on Relational Life Therapy (RLT), which targets relational issues head on and provides profound changes. I also use a mix of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), attachment-based psychodynamic therapy and sex therapy, where needed, to support each couple accomplish their dream relationship.
Most typical issues I work with include, but not limited to are:
- break-down in relational trust
- break-down in communications
- relentless arguments
- feelings of isolation and abandonment
- growing-apart
- sexless marriage
- 'empty-nest' syndrom
- how to break-up amicably
- whether to stay in the relatioship/ can it be salvaged
Couples therapy will not work if there is ongoing physical abuse and other acting out, such as ongoing infidelity, or untreated mental health or addiction issues. If you are unsure of whether your relationship has these elements, we will uncover them in the sessions over time and get the appropriate support.
Couples counselling sessions last 50 minutes (£210 pr session) or 90 minutes (£310 pr session). I see clients via MS teams.
Please contact me for further details or book directly into my diary below. For 90 minute sessions, contact me directly.
My aim is for every couple, if they decide to work on their relationship, is to be able to enjoy a relationship that far exceeds what they have come to see me for. To enrich couples with a sense of mutual cherishing, to be free of relentess, often toxic, arguments or silent numbing indifference, and be on a trajectory of sustained relational joy, for themselves and any children involved.