What is workplace mental health?

About 12 years ago, I was asked to help an organisation to help them think about staff wellbeing. It was a small start up company running on tight deadlines. My proposal got laughed at for being too soft. I don’t believe they are around any more. Mental health and wellbeing is a touchy subject for many. On World Mental Health Day 10th October 2024, we turn our attention to a critical but often overlooked area: workplace mental health.

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Why do I not feel joy in life (and what can I do about it)?

There is a saying that goes, if you are alive, you will suffer. If there is a time in your life where you feel no joy or happiness, it’s not unusual. Everyone will experience this at some point, whether it’s feeling depressed, upset, disillusioned, disheartened, turmoil or pain. The issue is when it’s a prolonged feeling, a chronic state.

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When Dating Uncertainty Activates the Nervous System: Anxious Attachment Meets Polyvagal Theory

Early-stage dating can be intoxicating, confusing, and quietly destabilising, especially for people with an anxious attachment style. The waiting, the mixed signals, the gaps between messages, the “what are we?” limbo. On the surface, this can look like overthinking or emotional neediness. Underneath, however, something much more fundamental is happening: the nervous system is being activated.
This is where attachment theory and polyvagal theory overlap in a powerful and compassionate way. Together, they help explain why uncertainty in dating doesn’t just feel uncomfortable for anxiously attached people- it can feel physically intolerable.

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